Sorry it took me so long to get this done. I had it all completed at one point and then my internet disconnected and when I got back to the page and clicked post it told me I'd been idle too long (or something to that affect)
1. Describe the first spanking your husband gave you. What led to it, did you ask for it or was it the heat of the moment? The first spanking I received was mostly a fun spanking, we were goofing around and I had this chair that I sat in when I was being particularly bratty, and I sat down in it. He sat down on the end of the bed and pulled me in one quick motion across his lap and spanked me a few times.
2. Reading your blog leads me to believe that your hubby doesn’t like punishing you much; how have you worked this out? Has he ever spanked you hard enough? He doesn't like spanking me, punishment he has no problem with. It has worked out okay, I think mostly because we know when we've crossed a line need to take a step back for a while. This has happened on numerous occasions with spanking. I have realized that he was getting uncomfortable with it (especially when we lived with his mom) and I stepped back. He still disciplined me during those times, just not with a spanking. As for him spanking me hard enough.. I don't think he has. His major problem, I think, is that when I start to whimper and beg, he'll stop.
3. What other disciplinary things (other than spanking) does your husband do? What other disciplinary things do you wish he would do? Other than spanking there are alot of things, since I am not working I have to work at home for a little extra spending cash and if I don't get something done when I'm supposed to he will take away a certain amount of spending money I get (mostly casino money). He will use corner time, writting essays, one thing that also works well is when I'm being bratty (not in the playful way) he will make me sit down and write down what I am thinking and how I am feeling. Not so much anymore, but early in our relationship I had a problem opening up to him, so I would hint around what I wanted, or how I felt, and this was his way to find out what I was thinking. As for other disciplinary things I wish he'd do. Wow.. that's a tough one. My husband is way more creative then me, so anything I could possibly think of he's already done:)
4. What is the fantasy (spanking or otherwise) that always gets you hot? Why is it fascinating? Do you actually want to do it? There are a few actually, I had mentioned one on
www.spankingden.com about being bent over a desk and paddled, however this one is more feasable. One fantasy that always gets me hot is thinking about being forced to spank myself as punishment. I am in the diaper position with my husband holding my legs up and counting each swat. Before hand I am given a certain number of swats that I have to deliver, and a number of "do-overs" in case one doesn't meet his expectations. For example I will be told to deliver 20 swats with 5 do overs... meaning I have 5 times that I can say "that one didn't count" but anything after 5 he adds a certain number of swats with a more severe impliment. I think this is fascinating to me because it's kinda original (I haven't seen anything like it online anywhere) but it's also out of the norm. I would actually like to try it.
5. Why do you think that spanking works for you? Such good questions there are.. thank you Kasey. Why spanking works for me? I think that alot of the times I am spanked it's for acting childish, ie:tantrums, lying. A spanking is such a submissive thing when you are to be punished (I mean actually pulling down your pants and getting over your husbands knee, or over the bed.. whatever), and during that submissive state I feel childish. It's also a trust issue, I don't think there has ever been a spanking that I have received that I wasn't thinking "God, he must really trust me in order to do this for me" But it's also that emotional renewal so to speak; That when this is over all will be better again. It's knowing that you have crossed the line and this is what is going to happen when you cross the line again. Now that I've gone in 18 different directions with this answer :P.
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Nothing New....
I still have two spankings coming. One for lying the other day (that I previously posted about) and one for not getting one of the chores done before he got home. It was going to happen the other day after I put the clothes away, but he decided he was too tired. So I'm still waiting. Hopefully soon though, because this is driving me crazy!!! The waiting... anyhoo, I'll let ya know how it goes.
Lying = ????
So, I had mentioned earlier about my punishment to come... it came alright, but not just in the form of a spanking. I started out across his lap with him spanking me some, then he moved me to the bed, he continued to spank me fast and hard. He stopped for a minute and asked me "Do you think you've been sufficiently punished??"... "That's not my decision," "Well, I'm making it your decision" "umm.. I don't know" (WRONG answer) He turned me back over and spanked me harder in rapid succession, one right after the other... After he thought I was sufficently spanked, he turned me over and started teasing me, I would get really close to orgasm and he'd stop what he was doing and say "Nope, not yet" and the like. He said that if I were to come, that I was a naughty girl.. and that naughty girls get punished (Soooo sexy). He teased me for what seemed like HOURS!!! only he swears it was only 10 minutes... and I finally came. But instead of another spanking we had sex. (I still have my "naughty girl spanking" coming.. I can't wait. ) I do also have another spanking coming for not getting my daily chores done last night, (I was supposed to do them when he got home, but I didn't, so I'm getting a spanking for that. Probably tonight after the baby is in bed for the night. ..
So, in conclusion my question is, if I get spanked for lying, and it turns into sex doesn't that defeat the purpose? I mean, it does somewhat get the message across, but if it's going to turn into something enjoyable... what have we accomplished? Anyway, I leave you with this thought
~Confusious says "Man who mixes viagra with exlax doesn't know if he's coming or going"~
Spankings Spankings and more..... Spankings?
I have realized that I haven't posted since last Thursday. It's not because I forgot (God knows I check this blog everyday) but I guess, it's because I didn't really have much to post. Ok, so now I do.
Saturday was a pretty bad day for me. I was just all around bratty. I woke up that morning frustrated, started bitching at my husband. Which turned into one of my tantrums, so that was one, it's funny how your attitude changes after a few stinging swats to the rump. I was over my husband's knee faster then I could even realize what was happening. Although he only used his hand, it still got the message across that I crossed the line. Saturday was much more productive after that, we got our house clean. (for the most part)
Saturday night I went out for a night off while my husband stayed home with the little one. I had to run to the store first, so I got that done and went to a casino here in town. I only had $2.00, so I didn't plan on staying too long and told my husband I'd be home by 3:00am, at 3:15 my friend who works at the gas station next door came in and said that my husband had called.. ooopppssss.. So, I told my husband what had happened that I had met up with a friend, and I'd be home at 4:00am.. well, I finally pulled in the driveway at 4:15 and met an upset husband on the balcony.. He wasn't upset that I was late (well, okay, kinda) mostly because he missed me (Awwww how cute:) ) So my spanking that night was more for fun.. but GOD sex after a good spanking is awesome!!! My husband is liking the idea of spanking as foreplay now, because I am more willing to be on top :) I don't know what it is about a spanking that sets the wheels going, but man...
Well, I have another punishment coming. I don't understand how a little fiblit can turn into a huge lie. (Okay, it's not gigantic) I was feeling that $2.00 wasn't enough to take with me to the casino, so I was going to get cash back at the store, but the smallest amount was more then I had in my checking account, so I decided that 2.00 would have to do. When I got home, I told my husband that I had thought about taking money out, but that I decided not to; making it sound like I had used my better judgement, as opposed to the fact that I didn't have anough money to do so. So I finally came clean about 2 hours after I got home, so I have another punishment waiting. Dunno what it is, or if hubby forgot (he tends to do that). Shhhhh, for the sake of my bottom don't tell LOL. (Don't worry, he reads this too :) ) So I most likely won't get away with anything.
Okay, so I have a question, for the husbands out there? What is it about a set number of spanks? My husband doesn't like to do that, why do you guys like it? Not that I want to give my husband ideas, but I am just curious. And Brats, what you think of that idea, as opposed to "flying blind".
I will let you know how the punishment goes, baby is going to be at grandma's today, so it's probably going to be then.
I don't know where this picture came from, but I have loved it since the first day I saw it!!!!!
New Rules
When you make rules do you set consequences? I mean, my husband doesn't agree that every wrong is a spanking offense, so there are very different consequences. One of the rules doesn't really have a consequence, which doesn't make sense to me (I will get to that one later). But here is the list of our new rules.
Tantrums
Now there are two different subcategories in this section: Arguing and Tantrums. Arguing is corner time. Now I want to make this clear, there is a definate line between discussion and argument. I am free to voice my opinion, as long as I don't raise my voice or become disrespectful. Tantrums consist of Arguing along with pouting, throwing things (I had a problem with that before), storming off, not listening, or just being bratty. That is a major spanking offense, with corner time as a cool down before hand. (And maybe after.. who knows)
Smoking
I am allowed 5 cigarettes a day. Anything over 5 I go, I am allowed that many less the next day. Easy enough right??? Wrong!
Lying
I don't know what it is about this that is soo hard. I have this horrid habit, but normally I only lie to save my behind, but I want the spankings for discipline (And fun too), this doesn't make sense in my mind.
Spanking: Severity (impliment/position/etc) to be determined by the length of time it took me to tell my husband, and what I lied about.
House Keeping
Okay, so this is the one that doesn't make any sense, I have a list of chores and what day I am going to do them on. Ex) Monday is Kitchen day.. the rule is that if it's not done by the time the husband gets home I have to drop whatever I'm doing and finish said chore. That's it!! No, loss of privledges, no corner time, no spanking NOTHING!!!! Grrr, I am so frustrated with that. It's like the BIGGEST and I mean BIGGEST problem of all time, and all I have to do is the chore??? No real incentive to do it, no reason not to. Does this make sense?
Anyway. I am done ranting about how crazy I think some of these rules are, but I guess that since he's my husband and HOH I gotta do what he says.
And if you have any ideas about a consequence for not keeping the house clean.. lemme know. I am sure he's open to suggestions, as long as they aren't mine :P
Hope you all have a great day!
Hubby comes to a realization...
So I realized (while across my husbands knee) that from the beginning I should have let him read my thoughts, instead of trying to explain it to him, or having him read someone elses thoughts.
When he got home from work yesterday, I asked him to please read my posts. He agreed, since it was in fact my thoughts, and began to read. When he finished he looked at me and said "So, you want me to spank you?"
Well DUH!!! I thought, but FINALLY, he seemed to understand what I wanted. We discussed some of the rules that I had mentioned on here and came up with a few more. I won't bore you with all the details.
My spanking yesterday wasn't too hard, or for any one reason in particular, it was just kind of a way to "get back into the groove" so to speak. I was told to strip completely naked, and lay across his lap. He didn't spank me that many times, and only with his hand, but for a warm up session it was pretty darn good. (And I was definately turned on :) ) So from there we preceeded to have sex. (Which I need not describe, because I am sure, every brat out there reading this will know exactly how sex after a spanking feels :) )
So after a lengthy complaint about how I wasn't spanked, and really wanted to be, (not to mention umpteen million previous attempts) I finally broke through to him and he now understands what I want.. YAY!!! (Should I be scared?? :P)
Anyway, we are implimenting the new rules and I will let you know how it goes!!
Take Care everybody
Have a great day!
So.. punishment delayed?? Or is there one?
Personally I feel there are a few rules that need to be set in order for me to be at total peace about my newely aquired "housewife" role. My husband and I have been married "officially" for almost 3 months. (we have lived together for the past 3 years) We have had some rules in the past, but they were all thrown out the window when we discovered there was going to be an addition to the family. That's not to say I wasn't spanked while pregnant, but it never really had the effect I, nor my husband, wanted, not to mention the positioning with an oversized belly isn't the easiest to come by. It was never uncomfortable physically (except for my stinging backside) but, I think, he was afraid to spank me too hard, because of the baby. I was only spanked once as punishment during that time. I think he was glad that I became pregnant, for obvious reasons, but also because that meant he'd have an excuse to brush off any wrong that I did.
Now, to the rules I feel need to be set in place (and feel free to comment if you feel these are totally off the wall)
Keeping the house clean
This is a major problem, because we live in a studio apartment (the three of us) and have alot of stuff. We moved in over a month ago and still don't have everything unpacked. I have 3 boxes of clothes sitting in the living room that really need to be sorted through, and no real reason why they aren't done. (My husband works overnight)
Tantrums
My husband calls them tantrums, I call them an expression of my emotions through my irish temper (Okay, they are temper tantrums, but it sounds cool right?). It used to be that I would yell and scream at him if I felt he was being totally unreasonable and sometimes for no reason at all. There is an exerpt from a letter/story I wrote for my husband after the incident.....
" Here I was, in the midst of a full blown temper tantrum. Now, at 20 years old I should know how to control my temper, but somehow I can't seem to grasp that sense of maturity that keeps me from diminishing myself to a child like state. Standing in the middle of the livingroom, screaming at the top of my lungs. I pick up the nearest throwable, which happens to be a half full bottle of soda, and chuck it at you. Of course off-set by the liquid inside my aim isn't good and I miss you hitting the door. You sit there and let me release all my energy. I finally storm off and head into the bathroom to take my bath."
I don't know why it is that after one of my explosions I tend to go take a bath, maybe it's my way of cooling down, or relaxing after exerting so much energy. That one I didn't get away with though.. and if you like I will explain what happened after my bath.
Smoking
Can I really ask my husband to spank me for doing something he himself does? I want to quit smoking soo badly, not only for my health, but for my daughter's as well. I mean, we do smoke outside and take all the necessary precautions to not smoke around her, or get cigarette smoke anywhere near her.. but it's still on our clothing and everything. We had a rule when I was pregnant that I could only smoke 5 cigarettes a day(because of baby). Which worked for the most part, I only went over that a few times.. the rule was for every cigarette I went over 5 I would get spanked (6-10 was 1 stroke for each and anything above 11 was 2 strokes). But now that I want to quit completely I want to impliment that rule again. But like I said earlier.. is it really fair to ask him to punish me for something he does?
I am not really good at coming up with fascinating endings so, I'll just sign off..
Where to begin...
I haven't really decided where I want this blog to go, or end up. Whether it be a journal type thing, my rants about spanking (or lack thereof), or my findings in the online spanking world. ie, pics, stories etc. Maybe I will do a combination of the three :P
You see, I am a spanko. My husband however, doesn't like the whole idea of spanking me for punishment, and won't, even if it's something that really bugs him. He says I should be responsible for myself, and in a way I kinda agree, but it's not that I think I need the discipline, I need to know that he is willing to help me, and put my wants and desires above his ideas about women. I know, that sounds selfish.
I was reading Kasey's journal at
http://illbeg.blogspot.com and in one of her posts she talks about why spanking works. Here is an exerpt:
" I think the reason this works is that I really like spankings when I am not asking for them – I really try to be good and I am bad and then I am punished. So, the only way to get that is to try really hard not to be spanked. I know it is weird and illogical: I love being spanked, so I try not to be spanked -- which makes me love being spanked."Thank you Kasey! I couldn't have put it better. The question is, how do I explain this to my hubby? I have annoyed him enough with e-mails and lengthy essays on spanking, that he has stopped reading them all together. His thoughts, as I said before, is that I should be responsible for myself, even though alot of things bug him and he thinks I should stop. He doesn't seem to understand that I desire and need him to help me, that I can't do a complete turn around in *snaps fingers* a split second.
If you have any suggestions please feel free to comment. I must leave for now. Fear Not, I will post again tomorrow :)
